Updated: Aug 17, 2020
What is a Divorce Coach? I get asked this all the time, so here you go!
A divorce coach is someone who supports you through one of the hardest times of your life. She or he is your ally, have typically been through it themselves and can help navigate the unchartered territory with you, guiding you on the do’s and don'ts while empowering you to be the best version of yourself through it all. Tackling anything from the timelines, procedures, how to talk to your kids, communicating with your ex, how to start a career, how to budget, dating, or just simply be the nonjudgemental ear you need.
I say this all the time, NOBODY, I mean NOBODY wants to go through a divorce. It is not fun, causes a lot of stress, and can really play a number on your finances and self-esteem.
I actually have my clients really do a deep introspection upon starting with me to make sure this is really what they want. Sometimes it is not their choice, and I get that, but there can still be things to look at in every situation.
I ask the following: Have you done everything you could to salvage the marriage? Have you looked at yourself and where you have contributed and THEN put forth the effort to do the work it takes on you to help salvage the marriage? Have you led your decision with what you think is the greener side of your marriage? We all get filled with thoughts of this incredible single life free of the stress of the relationship, dating again, and whatever else you have conjured up about it. I am here to tell you the grass is NOT greener, in fact, it's hard, lonely, and downright sad at times.
Unfortunately, more times than not, they have done the above introspection and they are ready to move forward. In my practice, I focus on a positive outcome, getting rid of the victim mindset, and taking 100% responsibility for your own life. We cover the divorce process, finances, career changes, reentering the workforce, self-care and creating a co-parenting routine that benefits you, your ex, and your children. We focus on the client, their why and purpose, and what they need to do to get the results they want. We tackle problems as they come up and along the way, I am my client's ally and support.
Why would I choose to do this work you ask? Because I have been there. During my divorce, I felt alone, fearful, scared, sad, and lost. I really had no one to relate to or who understood this most embarrassing time. I felt guilt, shame, and fear. Divorce makes people (especially married ones) extremely uncomfortable. You learn very quickly it is not a topic people like to discuss. I found myself turning to my lawyer who unfortunately had a running 15-minute increment pay scale for questions. It was not her job to lead me through, only to show me my legal options.
I felt compelled to do this work, help women navigate their life so that they could become successful and confident. After my work was done and I grew my businesses I decided to get certified and start helping women achieve this for themselves.
It is work. No doubt about that for anyone to navigate this process, but a divorce coach can help you gain the clarity you need to come out better on the other side.
If you or anyone you know needs help I encourage you to get the support you need.
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